Phrase it!

Some people should be treated the way they treat the others. It means that your delicacy won't be percieved and you won't get understanding. If a person is rude and gink don't try to speak civilly, it won't help. Speak his own language even if your gorge is rising. Only in this case you'll get what you want, and be satisfied with your new skill to adapt your ideas for sophomorics too.